Brothers and sisters chillin?

A couple of years ago an MSA (Muslim Students Association) that I knew about was having mixed socials.The socials weren’t in wide-spread areas like having an MSA BBQ or welcome back dinner, etc, it was more brothers and sisters ‘chillin.’ The MSA justified it saying it was a small MSA, they had to ‘ get to know each other..’ etc.. which is understandable, but doesn’t have to be done through the wrong venues..

One of the brothers sent out this article (see next post) as a reminder on how we need to avoid propagating such gatherings, and another sister reminded the MSA board that it’s one thing when brothers and sisters hang out together on their own time for fun [ie- without necessity, without observing proper adaab, etc]. Even though it’s incorrect, and may Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala guide us all, it is not necessarily MSA who is organizing that type of gathering. But once the MSA facilitates for the free mixing of both genders in a social environment without providing channels and organizing the event to follow the guidelines that Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has provided for us to follow …then how can those on the MSA boards not fear being questioned about such facilitation by the One Who is the All Seeer?

Alhamdullilah after much discussion they stopped having mixed social events, and focused on building brotherhood [only] and sisterhood [only] and building ummah-hood during bigger events, such as BBQs, welcome back dinners, etc, where there was enough room and channels to have a nice environment with enough separation for it to be comfortable, and inshaAllah according to the Qur’an and Sunnah.

If you all have suggestions on how we can work on these issues, especially since the MSAs can get grilled at times for handling them without hikmah, please share..

May Allah ‘Azza wa Jal help us adhere to the Qur’an and Sunnah and put noor and baraka in our MSAs. Ameen.

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